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The Modern Office Has a Meeting Inflation Problem. Smart Leaders Are Slowing Down With a 2-Step Fix
Slow down. Your next conversation will thank you.
BY JAY SULLIVAN
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As companies double down on Return-to-Office mandates, employees have begun to notice a strange paradox: while we are physically closer, connection often feels more rushed than ever. Driven by so-called ‘meeting inflation’ and back-to-back calendar invites, speed is often mistaken for effectiveness by modern businesses. The leaders who build the strongest relationships, however, are the ones who know when to slow down.
Rushing through meetings, conversations, or decisions can signal that checking off an agenda matters more than understanding the person across the table. Slowing down, even briefly, often leads to better decisions, stronger relationships, and more opportunities.
Here are two simple habits that make communication more effective.
1. Put their agenda ahead of yours.
Most meetings begin the same way: introductions, a quick recap, and then a sprint into the agenda. That’s efficient, but not always effective. Instead, pause before diving in.
A simple framework:
- State the purpose. “Thanks for meeting to discuss X.”
- Use a transition. “Before we get into that…”
- Ask an open-ended question. “What else is important to cover today?” or “What would make this conversation most valuable for you?”
This small shift changes the dynamic. It signals curiosity instead of control and communicates that the conversation isn’t confined to a predetermined script.
Most people will respond, “Nothing else. Let’s get started.” That’s still a win. The question alone demonstrates flexibility and reinforces that the meeting is about solving their problems, not simply completing an agenda.
The biggest payoff comes when someone responds, “I’m not sure if this falls under your expertise, but…” That’s a sign they’ve begun to see you as a trusted advisor rather than someone who performs a single function.
One important detail: Avoid yes-or-no questions like, “Anything else?” Instead, ask questions that begin with what, how, or why. They invite discussion instead of encouraging a quick dismissal.
Start every important conversation by asking what’s most important to the other person before moving into your own priorities.
2. Replace “no” with “whoa.”
Every leader has experienced it: someone shares an idea and the immediate reaction is, “That won’t work.”
The problem isn’t rejecting bad ideas. It’s rejecting them too quickly.
Experience creates shortcuts. Sometimes those shortcuts are useful. Other times they prevent leaders from recognizing a good idea because of who suggested it or how it was presented.
Instead of mentally jumping from “no” to “absolutely not,” replace that first reaction with “whoa.”
That brief pause creates space to ask:
- What am I missing?
- Is there a useful insight buried in this idea?
- Am I reacting to the person or to the idea itself?
Not every suggestion deserves approval. But every worthwhile decision deserves reflection instead of reflex.
The strongest leaders aren’t the fastest judges. They’re the most disciplined thinkers.
Slow your judgment long enough to evaluate ideas on their merits, not your first impression.
The bottom line
Slowing down isn’t the opposite of productivity. It’s often the fastest path to better outcomes.
Whether it’s giving someone space to shape the agenda or resisting the urge to dismiss an idea too quickly, a brief pause can improve trust, sharpen thinking, and lead to better decisions.
Sometimes the most effective leadership move is simply resisting the urge to rush.
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